Most abusers have no idea that they abuse. All they know is that they are needy and they desperately need you to fill that void. Hence if you don't do it the way they need it done, they will twist things around so that you feel bad about yourself. A relationship shouldn't include you becoming a martyre, you have to be valued just as much as you value your partner.
Abuse comes in many colors and shapes but one thing to remember, you have the power to take control of your life. You decide who you let in and you decide how much authority you will give them over your life. You have the right to say NO if someone is abusing your freedom to choose for yourself what you want in life.
